How are you getting on with your new year’s resolution?
Apparently a lot of people make a new year resolution but most of them give up on the 2nd or 3rd of January. It’s sad thinking about all those people who want to make changes in their life, or say they want to, but don’t suceed.
I hope you haven’t already experienced this disappointment<!–more–> yourself in 2010, but most of all I hope that, if you have, you’re not beating yourself up about it. All the research seems to indicate that, when it comes to new year’s resolutions, this type of failure is perfectly normal so it’s certainly nothing be ashamed of.
Unfortunately, even the very concept of making a new year’s resolution seems to be an exercise in setting yourself up for failure.
3 thoughts about making change
At the end of 2009 I wrote an article for Lifehack called 7 Steps For Making a New Year’s Resolution and Keeping It. If you haven’t read it yet and you’re interested in changing your habits or making new habits then do check it out.
The main points I want to get across about new year’s resolutions are:
1. The new year is probably not the best time to start new habits or change old ones.
2. If you do make a new year’s resolution you probably won’t be able to stick to it.
3. Just because you slip up doesn’t mean you have to give up entirely ~ the key to succeeding at making change is to persevere and keep trying. For proof of this read about the concept of ‘grit’ in 10 Ways To Get the Life You Want.
Change doesn’t happen overnight
There’s no way you can go to bed one night, be it December 31st or not, and wake up to a new you the next day.
Making changes in your life takes repeated effort over a sustained period of time.
When it comes down to it the three key questions you should ask yourself before making changes to your habits are:
1. Do you really want to change?
2. Do you believe the changes you want to make are possible and realistic?
3. Are you ready to put in the necessary work to make the changes happen and make them last?
Change won’t happen by magic
If you answered yes to those three questions then keep on striving to make the changes you want.
Do you remember that old trick where a magician pulls a rabbit out of his hat? Take a moment to consider how much practice the magician put into it before he or she managed to pull off the trick successfully.
If you want to change your habits or even change your life that will take practice too.
Brace yourself for blips along the way and expect that your decision to make life changes will be the beginning of a journey where you make two steps forward and one step back.
The important thing is to take the first step and keep going no matter what.
Oh, and if you’re one of the people who made a new year’s resolution and have been keeping it well done. Give yourself a pat on the back and keep up the good work!
Did you make a new year’s resolution? Are you still on track with it?
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